College Synonymous with Change?
January 11, 2008
So, it is quite funny: when all my friends were still home and on their winter break, I didn’t really feel like hanging out with them. I didn’t make plans with them; I spent time with my family instead. And then they all left. And all of the sudden, I have plans every day…with my friends who either go to a junior college or are still home. And they aren’t even really my close friends. Hahaha. But whatever, I got over the high school friends scene a long time ago…
I haven’t even really kept in touch with my HS friends. My best friend from HS..we still talk online once in a while, and I call him when shit happens to me or when I need to talk, but that’s not very often. He, on the other hand, has been really busy with one girlfriend after another, lol.
Which leads me to another point: so many people change in college. As in they go crazy, party hard, hook up with as many people as possible. That’s disgusting to me. There’s nothing wrong with partying. But I’ve seen people go from super sheltered and not partying to alcohol-loving, make-out-seeking people. Then again, I guess, what do you expect? They were so sheltered. But I was sheltered to. In my home town, almost everyone is sheltered. For god’s sake, we all grew up in the wealthiest of communities and most spoiled by their parents. I don’t know, I think people need to learn self-control and restrict themselves.
For example, I am not okay with me becoming a partying hooking-up girl. I don’t do that. I never did, and I never will. It’s called self-control and knowing who you want to be and who you don’t want to be. I have high expectations for myself, and I expect myself to be at that level. More people should do it too.
Posted in Friends, Life, Thoughts at 11:58am
I agree with you. A lot of people change during college. Now, I’ve never gone to college, but I can say tat I’ve changed over the years. I’ve gone from the “shy girl” to the “still slightly shy”, but more “outgoing”, “daring”, and “flirty”. I admit, in high school, I was a “good girl”, but I’ve come out of my shell a lot, started drinking, etc. But, I’m still the same person, same personality, only different in other senses.
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Good for you! Its good to have self-control and not become one of THOSE kinds of people. And, i know what you mean about staying in touch with old friends, its hard when you don’t hang out alot anymore.
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I’m glad you’re not the hook-up kind of gal; I wouldn’t judge you any less if you were, but at least you know what you want out of college. Yes, people go through changes, some for the better some for the worse, and they’re the only ones who can make that decision to change. I think that the ones who break out are the ones who’ve always secretly wanted to be in that kind of lifestyle or at least are so overwhelmed by how easy it is to obtain in college. So maybe it’s not necessarily a change, but more of a fulfillment of desires?
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